What Are you Bringing To The Potluck?

Do you ever feel like a beginner?

When I got my first dream job two decades ago, I had just joined one of the most well-known companies in the design world. It seemed like every individual I met there was dynamic and interesting and curious and so accomplished.

I hadn’t come in with zero experience then either, but it was easy to feel intimidated and to discount the skills I already had.

I did most of my learning on the job, and I felt like I had to work twice as hard and learn as quickly as possible to catch up. I felt pressure to master my craft in the shortest amount of time.

What a difference 20 years makes!

Now, as I make my way further into the emerging doula space, I have a completely different orientation. I went to a panel discussion this weekend that was hosted by my friend Jason Popko (hire him, he’s amazing!). As I listened to Jason, as well as a physician and three amazing End-of-Life Doulas, I was filled with respect and admiration for these new-to-me colleagues. As I sat in the audience, I felt gratitude for the opportunity to learn from their incredible experience and rich perspectives.

In years past, I would have felt behind. I would have worked to quell a rising panic that says I need to hurry up and fill my gaps!

Instead, I felt so light and relaxed. I didn't feel inadequate; I felt proud to be part of this world with them.

I realized: I'm not showing up to this potluck empty-handed.

Increasingly, I don't feel imposter syndrome, despite the fact that I still have so much to learn. It feels freeing. I recognize that I have skills and perspectives I can add. I can contribute to this community and to my clients while also deepening my doula skills.

There’s no need to wait until you know it all to be useful.

🍪 What skills or perspectives can you add to the spaces you’d like to be in?

🥧 What keeps you from showing up and stepping in?